From Logic to Insanity or Just Somewhere in the Middle

What happened to logic? Where did it go? I have been looking continuously for years, maybe even decades, and once in a blue moon I will come accross some, and then when I do, I cautiously look side to side as if I'm crossing the street, hoping I don't get run over by a speedster that came out of nowhere. There is nothing more pleasing than when I hear someone tell me that they took the rational approach to handle a situation rather than their first gut instinct based solely on emotion so that they can ruin possiblilities in their future, taking pity on themselves for decades to come. Why? I have been asking myself this question since I was eight years old. Why don't people think about the consequences that could stem out of the situation before they respond overlooking all the sensibility? I have come to the conclusion that most people are "habitual instinctivers". They rely solely on their instincts. Society has effortlessly instilled in us patterns of our nature of living. Because society has given us restrictions that are unconsciously drilled in our brains, we become almost robot like and only believe that certain standards can alleviate the problematic situation. We are unknowingly controlled by our own societies limitations, therefore we do not believe that we have the capabilities to expand our thinking and we cannot imagine coming up with alternate solutions that may trigger a harmonious outcome. Habitual instinctivers become caught up in the drama of their lives. They live the drama for a variety of reasons. Some like the attention they get from others and some like the natural highs and lows from unsteadiness they can gather within themselves. The other habitual instinctivers are not taught the skill of logic or have not had the skill presented to them by parents, teachers, or mentors. If one wanted to acheive the skill of logic, they should first start thinking outside the lines, especially when a situation occurs where logic is needed. They may want to think about what outcomes that could occur if the actual predicament was handled in other ways. Another way to learn logic is to acquire a mentor. It is proven that when enough time is spent with one whom you admire, you will learn much more effectively. Logic can also be learned when you think of yourself as logical. If you hear yourself when you listen to yourself talking, you can consciously watch what is being said and you can concern yourself more with your logical presentation, rather than being caught up in the moment. Your self esteem must be at ultimate levels in order for you to feel as though your logic is optimal. The way you think about yourself can completely change your whole presentation, first impression, and confidence. So, if you find yourself leaning towards being the habitual instinctiver rather than the logical one with all the common sense, then you may want to stop the continual, non-stop talking and start growing a non-pesticide, all-natural, environmentally safe, composted and chemical-free listening ear.

Be A Good Role Model

Every couple becomes engaged in arguments from time to time. Arguments can open communication and alleviate stress in our lives. Every person argues differently and some people have a tendency to argue without thinking how it affects their partner. When having a disagreement, try to express your feelings in a way that you would want to have your partner express them to you. Show your mate how to handle an argument by being a good role model. Your mate will learn from you by your positive attitude and by sharing your feelings in a healthy manner. When having a disagreement, try to stay calm and get to the point. Keep your emotions stable and never accuse or use hurtful words towards the other. If the fighting becomes severe and one inflicts insults at the other, there will be a build up of resentment and pain throughout your marriage. In order to avoid harmful statements, stay focused on how you would prefer to have a disagreement. If you start these tactics now, you will be conditioned to use them throughout your marriage and you will save your partner and you from heartache and hurt feelings.